Anger
Is it okay to be angry?
Emotions
With emotions such as sadness, fear, and anxiety they are often sympathised with and the reasons are recognised. When someone is afraid or sad they even receive compassion and love, this isn’t the case with anger.
When someone is angry the emotion is often demonised and sometimes seen as irrational. Some people such as Sigmund Freud believed that things such as depression is unprocessed anger that is redirected towards the self.
What is anger
It is important to acknowledge that in society anger is an emotion treated differently. There is often blame associated with anger.
If anger was purely negative and purposeless evolutionarily it wouldn’t exist, anger is a response to something. Anger is a response to some sort of hurt whether physical or emotional.
How to deal with anger
If you pay attention your anger has a source and you should pay attention to where that is. Try not to follow the path of anger but recognise where the feeling is coming from, you may find you feel attacked, disrespected, or ignored.
In this case, many people would ignore or suppress the anger however it is important to avoid doing this also. If you do this the cause is also ignored and therefore not worked on. The root cause will build up subconsciously while the anger is ignored.
So instead of building the anger up and exploding in rage or doing something drastic, slow down and listen to where the anger is coming from. You can assess the cause and response. For example, if you find that feel you are being unfairly treated at work there are a number of responses that don’t include suppressing it and manifesting that feeling or exploding in a fit of rage. You could instead listen to that feeling and accept it then follow an appropriate response for it.
Anger generally causes problems when the cause is ignored and builds up into an often disproportionate displacement on other people or things. A lot of the hurt goes unrecognised and is manifested as anger.
So to deal with anger start by asking yourself how you’ve been hurt.
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